For Moms who need perseverance

 

Some days she has no idea how she will do it. But every single day it still gets done

The echoing of, “Mummy, I’m bored…”, “Mummy, please can I have some grapes…”, “Mummy, I need to poo”, “Mummy, he smacked me…” and “Ma Ma, Ka Ka!” all ring in my head as my two kids constantly compete for my attention. The tension and chaos in the house sometimes threatens to suffocate me and in an attempt to break out of it, I lose my temper and shout, “Everyone just sit quietly!”

Many people think I’m always put together when in reality I’m sometimes a hot mess. Sometimes, I’m stressed, anxious, irritable, overwhelmed, exhausted…TOTALLY EXHAUSTED.

 

Who ever thought to put me in charge of raising these beautiful little souls?

When you become a mom especially, it becomes very apparent there would be so many things outside and beyond your control. You can’t control your awesome nanny moving on, you can’t control your child catching chicken pox from nursery, you can’t control that other child from biting your child in school. You can’t control the train not getting cancelled which means you can’t make it in time to pick up your child. There are just too many unknown variables.

Without sounding overly religious, I don’t know how those without faith cope without constantly getting depressed because sometimes in life it gets so hard. There will be seasons where you’re pushed to the very limit, where the kids are ill, you’re ill, work load in the office is overwhelming, your childcare options fail, your kids have discipline issues, your husband travels away for work or any of those life-changing challenging times.

Perseverance is failing 19 times and succeeding the 20th

 

Few weeks ago, on one of those days where it was very very hard. I rushed out of the house to join the morning commute into the city with my 4 year old who was going into work with me that week to attend my work crèche. We literally made a run for it to make the direct train to cannon street only to find it was cancelled. The next train which had a stopover that involved several sets of stairs to get to the platform was also delayed. Thankfully, a kind man on the packed train offered us a seat.

 

On arrival into the city- trust London weather, it started to rain at that final hurdle of 5 minutes’ walk to the crèche building and on top of that my 4 year old became so tired and asked me to carry him. I literally had to fight back the tears honestly because I was really tired myself, being up the night before until almost 1 am to do house chores and laundry which I must say is not for the faint hearted. At that point I said to him “mummy too is tired and needs someone to carry her”. That made him pause and he said “mummy don’t worry I won’t disturb you again”. From nowhere I just felt a renewed rush of strength from above, this is a real example of grace. I was eventually able to make it into work and found that the important 9 am meeting I was rushing to got cancelled 🙂

You can’t control everything that happens to you. Sometimes, you just need to relax and have faith that everything will work out.

Later that morning at my work canteen having a hot cuppa tea whilst chatting with my colleagues, i felt very happy again because God saw me through the minor hurdle like many others in the past. This in a nutshell is why people constantly say I’m a super mom. It’s because of his grace. God’s grace.

Winners are not people who never fail but people who never quit

 

My biggest lesson in life is you can never put your trust in a human, system or process- computer systems crash all the time, trains gets cancelled everyday. Your boyfriend will disappoint you. Your husband will fail will sometimes. Your family might not be there when you need them. Your friends might not support your causes. Your boss might not be in a position to help with a pay rise.

But God will never fail you. God has never failed me. He has never left me hanging out to dry. There are many times I felt like giving up however at that moment God just send help and encouragement.

 

Trust God to provide the strength to endure
I have so many personal examples of when God gave me much more than I can handle. I’ve seen it time and time again. God’s purpose to allow us to receive more than we can handle is so that we can trust him to supernaturally provide perseverance and strength. Colossians 1:10-11 reminds us that we have the ability to tap into “all power according to his glorious might” and that this power will bring us “great endurance and patience.”

When you face challenges know that they are not sent to destroy you. They are sent to promote, increase and strengthen you.

Will you choose to rejoice in your career, parenting or marriage challenges today, asking God to give you all the perseverance and strength you need to endure? Even when the trials seem relentless and non stop, trust God to provide the strength and stamina you need one moment at a time. He is faithful and will strengthen and grow you in new, beautiful ways as you choose to rely on Him for perseverance through daily life trials.

If you are going through hell, keep going. Tough times don’t last but tough people do. Your hardest times will often lead to the greatest moments of your life.

 

Hang in there and wait for God’s promises to come through from these trials.

 

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How do you persevere through difficult times?

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20 Comments

  1. Sandy Hide
    September 20, 2017 / 12:52 pm

    Sandt hide

  2. Sandy Hide
    September 20, 2017 / 12:54 pm

    I am truly inspired

    • Folakemi
      September 21, 2017 / 3:58 pm

      Appreciate you reading dear. We are all super moms x

  3. Mel
    September 20, 2017 / 2:58 pm

    Wow, I can totally relate this . The worst part is when you get a call from daycare that your child is sick and you need to come get him. Awwww your son response made me cry! LIke you said, God will never give us something that we cannot handle. May God continue to be your strength.

    • Folakemi
      September 21, 2017 / 3:57 pm

      Lol, I never look forward to those calls from daycare which implies (in most cases) you have to keep the child at home for atleast 48 Hours. God will continue to give us the strength and grace to fulfil all our duties. Thanks for reading and commenting, means a lot to me.

  4. Jennifer
    September 20, 2017 / 7:32 pm

    Beautiful piece dear. I can so relate like it’s my story. Yes God will never give us what we cannot handle . May God continually give you the grace and strength to keep going .

  5. September 21, 2017 / 10:30 am

    Lots of lovely advice here. I find when life is getting too much going on a walk/run with a friend can make everything right again.

  6. September 21, 2017 / 12:38 pm

    Gorgeous dress! You look amazing. I think it’s a great lesson to have perseverance, we are never given anything that we cannot deal with, we just don’t realise our inner strength

  7. September 21, 2017 / 12:45 pm

    Life can be so busy and hectic but I’m lucky that I can always rely on my husband to help me get through everything.

  8. Funmi
    September 21, 2017 / 2:49 pm

    You sure know how to motivate one, this came in handy for me at this very moment. Thanks for putting “ink on paper”…thumbs up always

  9. Tolu Oyinloye
    September 21, 2017 / 3:42 pm

    Wow! Wow! Wow!. What an inspiring read. I feel renewed again each time I read your write ups because I draw a lot of strength from it. May the Lord continue to renew your strength as you share your real life experiences as a Mother to touch the lives of others. Thanks for being a great inspiration and for encouraging new Mom’s like me. God bless you.

  10. September 21, 2017 / 9:17 pm

    What your son said to you is just the cutest thing! Perseverance really is the most important part of being a mum. Being a mum is hard at times, especially for us working mamas! When things get tough for me I always ring a friend and meet for a coffee or a walk.

  11. Fatima
    September 22, 2017 / 4:12 pm

    That’s such a graceful dress and the colour has made it look quite formal too! The nail paint you’re wearing in the photos above is my favourite!

  12. Rachel
    September 24, 2017 / 11:39 am

    This is such a lovely inspiring post. You also look incredible, that dress is truly stunning! xo

  13. October 4, 2017 / 9:04 pm

    When I need to cry, I cry. But I know once I’m done, I need to chin up and keep moving.

    • Folakemi
      October 13, 2017 / 11:04 pm

      Same here. Crying is never a sign of weakness in fact it’s usually a sign that we’ve been strong for way too long. We’re so resilient we always pick ourselves up despite the daily life challenges!

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  15. Olufunmike
    October 10, 2017 / 12:17 pm

    I can relate to this. Sometimes I feel so spent that I don’t want to get out of bed. Awesome post

    • Folakemi
      October 13, 2017 / 11:01 pm

      Stay in bed when you get the chance mama. We’re always on the go without leaving room for down time. Sometimes we don’t even allow our kids enjoy their childhood because we’re constantly too busy and tired!